Lyman was born in Hartford Connecticut in 1937 to Judith Pigeon Brainerd and Lyman B. Brainerd. He spent his early years in West Hartford with his sister Judith (deceased 1966) and his brother Richard (now of Simsbury) at their family home on Pilgrim Road and later on Bloomfield Avenue. Lyman was an accomplished golf and tennis player, and later became a champion bridge player, all of which appealed to his competitive spirit. He graduated from Deerfield Academy in 1955 and Harvard College in 1959, and earned an MBA from Harvard Business School in 1961. He married Susan V. Maxwell of Macon GA in 1959 and they had two daughters, Judith Ann Brainerd Roth and Elizabeth Lowden Brainerd. Lyman and Susan divorced in 1983 and in 1996 he married Ann Hamilton. He is survived by his two daughters, his brother Richard, and two grandsons, John D. Roth Jr. and Ian M. Roth. He is also survived by Ann's children, Stewart and Whitney, and six grandchildren.
Lyman began a business career in Boston but soon made a career shift to education. He earned a Doctorate of Education from the University of Massachusetts Amherst in 1973. The UMass Amherst School of Education was a hotbed of innovation in the 1970s, and Lyman was part of a group that established the importance of professional development for administrators in primary, secondary, and higher education. He went on to become Assistant Dean of the Faculty and then Director of Personnel at Princeton University. After retirement he became an active philanthropist and volunteer for organizations promoting women's health and reproductive rights around the world. Lyman and his wife Ann were also active supporters of animal welfare and environmental conservation organizations.
Donations in Lyman's memory may be made to the HopeHealth Hulitar Hospice Center in Providence. There will be a private burial service at Cedar Hill Cemetery in Hartford.
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